We don't know how to love

We don’t know how to love

Maybe it’s our generation, maybe it has always been like this, I really don’t know but we don’t know how to love. It’s a struggle to love ourselves, to love those around us.

I don’t mean just saying “I love you”, anyoone can say those words. It is as common and as easy to say as good morning on a bad morning. What I mean is saying “I love you” and meaning it. To not just say but to act it, to live it.

Love these days is almost like a game or maybe a transaction. I will tell you I love you and you will give me your body. Your body for my money and the gifts and goodies I will shower you. We will do this business together showing the world how how happy we look. Not how happy we are. Maybe, just maybe, the world would be happy, I mean jealous no envious and that would make us happy ( does it?)

We don’t know how to love. We can’t even love ourselves the right way. We can’t love ourselves enough to stay single when we have not found the one who makes our heart beat twice as fast or even more.

“Unless it’s mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it’s a waste of your time. There are too many mediocre things in life, love shouldn’t be one of them.” Movie: dream for an insomniac.

Maybe we have found that one person, maybe that one person doesnot love us the same way. We don’t love ourselves enough to stay away from the one whose feelings for us we are unsure of. If it is love, there would be no confusion but we don’t know how to love ourselves.

“The ones who love you, will never make you wonder.” Sisi gavrilaki

We expect love to be like the Cinderella story, an happily ever after. You meet your lover, sparks fly, everything becomes beautiful and then the happy ending. But that is only an illusion. Sparks really fly but they don’t always fly, sometimes they burn down. Sometimes they go off but if the love is mutual, the partners ignite the dead sparks and it’s starts all over again.

“Good relationships take time patience and two people who want to be together.”

Love is not about always being happy yet it’s about the little things that make us happy. We don’t know how to love because sometimes we expect that everything will remain the same as the beginning. On the contrary, we will grow and so will the things we believe in. A lot of things will change but if both partners love each other, the love will only grow stronger.

We don’t know how to love because we try to change people while loving them. I’m not saying it’s bad but we are individuals, we are not perfect and like they say opposite attracts. Except that we get attracted to our opposites and try to make them more like us.

We want those we love to think like us or even react like us forgetting that we are different and we are together because of that difference. To love is to understand that they are not perfect, it is to understand that they will make mistakes and that they can always be better if loved the right way.

“You come to love not by finding the perfect person but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.” Sam keen

The world is what it is. We learn about science and art in schools but we barely learn about the force that binds and keeps humanity together. We hardly learn about love and how to do it the right way.

Please leave a comment, telling me your thoughts on this topic πŸ’“πŸ’“

18 comments

  1. Goldenseal

    From my perspective, I think we never really know the definition of love…….we only assume this or that and that is where the problem is, how do you expect someone who does not know what love is to love the right way…..Nice piece here darling

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